The 'S' Word

  You knew this topic was coming: Soul mates. Personally I do believe in soul mates. I'm a little fuzzy on love at first sight, but soul mates exist. But here's my twist on the soul mate debacle. I believe that everyone has 1.5 soul mates. There's your one and your half. Your one is 'thee one'. You will be perfectly complacent with this person, but let's say your one and you never meet or it didn't work out and you two never tried again, then what? This is where your half comes in. You will be satisfied with this person, but it's not the same as being with your one. If you ever meet one you will know that there is an undeniable spark and chemistry that cannot be filtered for anyone. This 1.5 theory does not mean that you and one won't break up; it's still up to the both of you to make things work out to its maximum potential. This also isn't to say that your one won't die before you meet or is with their half. Life is crazy and it always will be. Don't expect an easy route because you found your one or half. Also, we are just humans which means there has been and will be error. For example, you think you found your one, but you find out you're in love alone. As horrible as that may sound, it has happened many times. So before you run out and give someone a title make sure it's real. No one can be your one (or half) when the chemistry and spark do not exist or only exist for you. So on that note, happy searching!

When Did That Happen?

 

  So, what happens when you look at your boyfriend, girlfriend, or
whatever the title may be, and realize everything that you were attracted to is
gone? For example, do you remember when you two first started out and you
were flooded with compliments like "You smell great"? I know you
remember that, but a better question is do you remember when the compliments
became sparse and critiques like "You could firm up a bit" started?
If you do then maybe you know exactly when you stopped being attracted to your
beau. As for the rest of us, when did that flare go disappear? Was it somewhere
between the cuddling and too much alone time? It sounds like the problem is the
both of you are not appreciating one another as much as you should be. You two
have become too familiar with one another. The excitement is gone, or so you
think. Try going out together and doing some of the things you two used to do.
Start by going out, after the big step try a spicy new club, the bar you met
at, or something that disappeared with the compliments. If these things aren't
doing the trick, try something you two never did before together. For instance,
sky diving is drastic, by hey it's exciting! If that is too much for you, maybe
you can try a sporting event, bumper cars, or even a trip. There are plenty
things to do, as long as you both want to do them. So, when you look at your
beau and realize the spark is gone, get up and get it back before it's too
late.

Omens...

  Well, the definition of an omen is basically a sign that brings you
to a point. For example, you want to attend college but you can't afford it.
That is until you receive a grant that covers college costs. Reasonably, you
would interpret that as an omen to attend college. Now my omen is very
different. You remember the basketball player I wrote about a couple blogs ago?
This is where you are nodding your head yes or are trying to find the blog, I
understand. But anyway, I got 'sick' at a party I attended and I already
planned to meet up with him afterward. So I met him 'sick'. I fell or lay in
ice, threw up about six times without perfect aim, and said some really funny
things. Throughout all of this, he took care of me. He wiped off my bloody
knee, mopped up the vomit, and never lost patience with me. Honestly, I was
fine until I got to his apartment, I don't know what happened. The night ended
with him letting me sleep over and kissing me on the forehead. Personally, I
would have preferred not to have thrown up in front of him or rather anybody,
but maybe it was an omen. He took perfect care of me and being a freshmen in a
dorm filled with freshmen I think it was an omen. An omen to what exactly is
still blurry.

Greed

  As you can tell, I have not been in many, or any, long term relationships. So when I hear about people on campus or my age rather that have been together for a long time (6 months- a year +) I feel like there is a love story in the making. To that point, it really grinds my gears when I hear about people that cheat or do things behind their partner's back. Instead of cheating just tell the person that you don't feel the same way. Recently a friend of mine fell for this guy. They have gone out almost everday for a month or two. Then all of a sudden he blows her off when she text him. As she got dinner with a former classmate, she was informed that he slept with the other girl. Not only that but the guy, at another point, burst into her friend's apartment and bragged about sleeping with someone. He didn't know that she was there but that didn't make the embaressment disappear. So, today my question to you is: What does anyone get out of cheating? Who does it benefit?